I've wanted to share this for the last couple of days but I've had a hard time placing my thoughts to (virtual) paper. A week ago I shared a
prayer request for our night guard who was sick. He had missed a week of work due to illness and had returned to his village, which is normally a sign that the illness is expected to be terminal. Last Thursday I got word that he had passed on. He was in his 40's and survived by two wives and 3 children (a teenage son and 2 very young daughters). This was, obviously, a very sad occasion for us. Madou had worked for us just two months. We were forced to fire our previous night guard after he did some very shady things and ruined our trust in him. At the same time another missionary couple was leaving the field for a time and recommended Madou to us. We are glad we go the chance to know him and he was very nice to my family and a great worker. This was my first close experience with death in Mali. There are many customs here that I've been learning over the last few days. First, and most importantly, is to go and sit with the family to give condolences. There aren't funeral homes and formal wakes here, so this is sort of like that. Friday, I went to Madou's brother's house and sat with him for half an hour or so. I gave him the sympathies of me, my family, his previous employer and the mission. I also passed along a money gift. I knew that giving a gift of money was normal but when I asked my friend how much I should give he didn't give me an amount. Instead, he explained to me the reasons for the gift. he told me that family will be coming from all over to give their sympathies as well and they will stay with the family. They won't bring food with them and will stay several days expecting to be fed and sheltered. These expenses can add up quickly and be a burden for the family.
It's interesting that during the last month our house help, Jeanette, has been in Cote d'Ivoire visiting her family because of her father's death. He actually passed last year but because he lived in a different country it wasn't possible for the family to all go right away. The family sent a representative to mourn and then last month they all went to have a belated time together.
Death is a reality here in Mali. The average life-span in Mali is less than 50 years. Compounded with the fact that only 1% of the population is Christian this just furthers the case for the urgency of the Gospel. Please pray for the family of Madou, for our new night guard (who also is not a Christian), and for Mali in general that Christ will be worshiped and glorified here.
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